Emigration to Israel: everything turned out by chance.
In the last few years, many are thinking about emigration. Much to that premise, unfortunately: constant reforms in education, a decline in the overall standard of living. How to move a family with two children and what changes arise when a country changes, says Ekaterina Arefieva.
Katya and her family moved to Israel in 2016, but today she has something to share.
How did you decide to move? After all, you and Russia were all well: a measured life, work.
Catherine: It all happened by accident. We went to a Jewish family camp in Italy. There it was pleasant to us, and to children, including the general cultural level of people, classes, communication.
On our return we are going to Israel. And when we come here, the whole trip is formed without a hitch, without a hitch. Our wonderful guide shows non-tourist places, tells the story of Israel, we get acquainted with new people. My husband and I were totally ecstatic. At the Western Wall, her husband had a feeling that he returned home. It really is an energetically very strong place.
When they returned to Moscow, psoriasis, which for a long time has a husband and an older daughter, passed. More precisely, there was a remission for ten months, which did not happen earlier.
Back in Israel, we learned that we have the right to repatriation. The husband with his characteristic passion of the analyst plunged into the reading of the Torah. He listened to the comments, the history of the Jewish people and many things. He realized that Jewish philosophy is close to him, since the basic sense of justice responds.
And I tried to get used to the idea of two years that we could move. The last straw was the discussion of the bill that there will be a switch to import substitution of medical products by Russian counterparts. And I realized that I’m not ready to live in such coordinates. The decision was taken.
Who finds it more difficult to relocate & # 8212; adults or children? How do the children get used to it?
Catherine: Adults are more difficult. To small children it is quite simple, because to them where parents & # 8212; there and well. A teenager is more difficult, but if a good contact with parents, if he himself participated in the decision to move, then emigration will be easier. We consulted with the elder daughter, she took part in the discussions. And so when it’s hard for her, we hug and say: it’s hard for us too, but we knew that the first two years will not be easy, because the child, we all suffer together.
Adults are heavier, because here, as in adolescence, it is necessary to pass the moment of search, self-identification, to find oneself in this world. The husband immediately went to work & # 8212; he is in a less stressful situation. I’m still looking.
What unexpected questions did you encounter when you moved?
Catherine: Food, water, smells, the general level of noise, the circle of communication changes. From the usual questions: we must re-understand how the banking system works, medicine, schools, gardens. For example, from a kindergarten they told us that a daughter of a Hebrew teacher must be found. Because she constantly chats, but one of the group does not understand the language. And we found a teacher for her, so that the child would be more comfortable. “Because it’s not fair that she does not understand.”
Similarly, with the eldest daughter was when they came to us in three weeks at school and asked: “Do you need any help, are you new immigrants? We just noticed that the child wears the same clothes. ” She really only changes her T-shirt every day. And not because she does not have them, but because the adolescent age: she climbed into one and in this walks. I was not sure how it was! they are now all the time the child will be forced to dress. But the Israelis explained to me that this is not because they do not like it, but because they are interested in whether or not help is needed. And if necessary, it will be rendered: material including. That is, it was not a figure of speech.
If you really need help & # 8212; in the search for a teacher, in opening a bank account, in something else, & # 8212; the Israelis help. It seems that space starts to spin and all problems are solved. Everyone has a desire to help you. It is directly in the air.
From the unpleasant moments: it will be difficult to restructure, that the week begins with Sunday. And while the feeling that I have taken away the day and I do not have time. Although Friday & # 8212; output. It’s probably just unusual.
I became completely free here, internally free. I explain this to myself by moving. In Moscow, there are still certain expectations from me and I depended on them. There is no & # 8212; I can be myself, which is. The feeling that you were expected exactly as you are. And it’s incredible.
What is lost, what is gained in the broad sense?
Catherine: We acquired the freedom to be ourselves, without forcing ourselves into the framework. The joy of being, when you are surrounded by people, contented with life. Although all have questions that have to be addressed. But here it is much easier than in Russia. When you leave for emigration, just as we left, alone, there is a feeling of guilt. Parents are in hospital, and you can not help them from here, do nothing.
Unexpectedly, a powerful level of medical prophylaxis was discovered. Here, at the state level, it is understood that this is better and cheaper. The state pays for medicines, and it is better to catch the disease in the beginning than to then spend expensive treatment. And this approach is visible in all spheres.
Have got new acquaintances, new experience. Let us take root here and get used to life in new realities. Although the good you get used to quickly.
Emigration to Israel: everything turned out by chance.